SURROGATE TAPPING
by Gwenn Bonnell
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What is Surrogate Tapping? Surrogate
EFT involves one person performing EFT
(Emotional Freedom Techniques) on himself or herself for the benefit
of another person. This is especially useful for parents who want
to affect the energy systems of their children.
Personally, I’ve tapped on myself for a variety
of issues for a variety of people. The most successful has been when
someone is having an allergy attack. Just a round or two of tapping
on myself clears up their symptoms!
One of my favorite stories is when I used EFT for
my brother-in-law's allergies. Greg came over for a bike ride one
morning, sneezing almost non-stop. Once we started biking, I asked
him what was going on. He told me he was having an allergy attack
- but he didn't know what was causing the attack.
I asked him if he would let me use EFT to address
his allergies. He replied, sure, but how are you going to to that?
We are riding bikes?
Once I told him I could tap on myself for his symptoms,
he agreed. So there we were, riding down the street, with me tapping
on myself saying, "Even though Greg is having an allergic
reaction to whatever he is having this allergic reaction to, I deeply
and completely love and accept him. Even though Greg is having an
allergic reaction to whatever he is having this allergic reaction
to, he deeply and completely accepts himself. Even though Greg is
having an allergic reaction to whatever he is having this allergic
reaction to, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
While tapping on the points, I repeated, "Greg's
allergic reaction."
After two rounds of Shortcut
EFT, Greg's sneezing stopped. Two blocks later, he commented on
how his nose cleared up and his eyes were no longer stinging! (Note
I did not address symptoms separately - in this case, addressing "this
allergic reaction" globally worked! However, if you find a global
statement does not give you relief, then I suggest you start addressing
each symptom separately until you get relief.)
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An important thing to remember for successful surrogate
tapping is to get your emotions and energies clear before trying to
tap for someone else’s issues. If you are a parent and are upset
or stressed about the behavior of your child, using EFT to balance
your emotions will allow you to more clearly understand and treat
their issues, either with surrogate or direct tapping.
While performing surrogate EFT, the Setup Statement
may take the form,
• “Even though (name of person) has this problem, I
deeply and completely accept (him/her/their name,)” or
• “Even though (name of person) has this problem, I
deeply and completely accept myself,” or
• “Even though (name of person) has this problem, (he/she/name
of person) deeply and completely accepts (himself/herself.)”
Use your best judgment, your intuition, or try all
three approaches. Bottom line is, use what works best for you!
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Often using EFT to address and change your reaction
to the other person’s behavior shift their behavior as well! You
can read more about this in the article “Stop
Fights Before They Start” in the Articles section of my www.tapintoheaven.com
website. The direct link is http://www.tapintoheaven.com/2Articles/anger2.shtml
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One of the questions I am asked most often about using
Surrogate EFT is, "Do I need to get permission from the other person?"
If you think about it, isn't this similar to praying,
or sending good wishes to another? Do you ask permission to pray for
someone else? Are your prayers always answered? As long as your motivation
and intention is for the other person's best and highest interest, I
believe that doing Surrogate EFT for them is fine. In the dimension
of energy, they have a choice to accept help and healing - no matter
what the source - or not.
On Gary Craig’s web site – www.emofree.com
- there are case histories of surrogate, or proxy, tapping.
The following is an article by Gary Craig, developer
of EFT, discussing Surrogate EFT and getting permission:
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**Can we do EFT surrogately or through intention? If so, do
we need permission? ** by Gary Craig, www.emofree.com
Many practitioners report impressive successes through
applying EFT in this manner. In my experience, the results are not as
consistent as physically tapping but the reports are well beyond mere
coincidence.
The question of needing permission is an interesting
one. Here is an article I wrote to our email list on this subject.
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Hi Everyone,
Our web site contains a growing number of successes using EFT surrogately
and/or with intention. It would take a master of denial to read them
and not be intrigued by the anecdotal evidence. The common question
that arises about this regards asking permission to do this sort of
healing work. Shouldn't we ask the client first? If for some reason
that's not feasible, then shouldn't we ask a Higher Power for permission
to proceed? And if neither of those is done, shouldn't we at least first
recite some permission generating statement like, "I offer this
healing work only if it is in the highest and best good of the person
receiving it."
Good thoughts. All of them. They come from a caring place and, whether
or not you agree with the necessity for doing this, the individuals
choosing to go this route should be honored for their loving commitment.
I don't know what's right here but I've been a party to this conversation
on many occasions and thus offer below some interesting viewpoints I've
run across (as well as some of my own).
First, some people (a minority) have given me detailed procedures for
getting permission. These procedures are put forward as MUSTs for everyone
to follow. Otherwise, it seems, you will surely damage someone. When
I asked where these procedures came from, they responded that they came
from "personal understandings." When I asked for a list of
specific damages that people had encountered as a result of well intentioned
surrogate/intentional tapping (done without permission), there was not
a single incident offered. Interestingly, these varying procedures each
contained a DIFFERENT list of MUSTs.
Therein lies a weakness, I think. To me, a MUST is a MUST. Thus if list
#1 contains a true MUST then it must be on list #2 and list #3, mustn't
it?
Otherwise, how can it be a MUST? I didn't find this method very compelling.
Other people believe that you must always ask permission of the client
unless they are unable to grant it. Examples of those who are "unable"
might be infants, animals, elderly people suffering from dementia, mentally
retarded people, people who speak other languages, etc. This way, you
can get direct permission most of the time. For those people unable
to grant permission, it can still be obtained by asking a Higher Power.
The permission asking questions I have heard go pretty much like this,
"Is it in the highest and best interest of this client for me to
do this work surrogately?" This technique is used by some practitioners
for ALL their surrogate/intentional work. They never ask direct permission
of the client. Instead they ask a Higher Power and proceed accordingly.
Many people have found this meritorious and I'm always in favor of procedures
that work.
However, the logic of this bothers my left brain a bit. Why? Because
I don't know anyone (myself included) who is able to get 100% pure Guidance.
No one, in my experience, is able to consistently (always) discern whether
a given "answer" comes from a Higher Power or is just their
own internal chatter. Yet they assume the answer is accurate and proceed
(or don't proceed) accordingly. Do they have "real permission"--or
not? Or do they have it a good percentage of the time and that is good
enough? Interestingly, those who do this report good results.
You know what's interesting about all this? I have never heard of anyone
being damaged by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work of any
kind--EFT or otherwise. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened. I know
there are stories regarding negative forms of Voodoo (hardly well intentioned,
by the way) and stuff like that and so maybe it's possible. But I know
a lot of people in the healing professions and over 1,000 clients and
I have never heard of a single case where someone was disadvantaged
in any way by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work. I have, however,
heard many reports of successes by using this "way out" procedure.
From all I can tell, these surrogate attempts either provide worthwhile
benefits or fall on their face. But they don't cause harm. It's as though
our efforts are stopped if, indeed, we are treading in areas which are
not for the client's highest good.
This is not to suggest, however, that getting permission isn't a good
idea. I get permission myself but I don't do it in a formal way. Rather,
I just get an intuitive notion regarding whether or not to proceed.
This is my form of asking for Guidance. I lean on this intuitive notion
even when I'm in a one-on-one session (and obviously have client permission).
It is continually guiding me as to which avenue to pursue with the client.
In our advanced tapes I consistently put forward the notion that effective
healing is done THROUGH US rather than BY US and the major skill involved
is to GET OURSELVES OUT OF THE WAY. I find this much more useful and
efficient than formally asking permission. True Guidance, some would
argue, is better than permission because it is much more informed than
both client and practitioner.
Another issue along these lines is the potential intrusion into one's
privacy if we try to "fix" them without their permission.
It's also a big rapport breaker if they have beliefs against this sort
of thing and discover later that you were doing this.
This brings me to a related question that has been sitting within my
psyche ever since this permission debate came to my attention (several
years ago). It's an obvious question but I've never heard anyone voice
it. Here it is.
If it is important to get permission for our well intentioned healing
work then shouldn't it be just as important, if not more so, to get
permission for our negative intentions? For our angers at others? For
our wishes that someone loses while someone else wins? For the mental
rejections we might level at others?
Yet how often do we do get permission for such thoughts? Does anyone
EVER get such permission? Or do we just have the thought/intention without
regard to the highest good of our "target?"
Have you ever stopped yourself before having an angry thought/intention
about someone and asked their permission to have it? I wonder what would
happen if each of us did this. My guess is that we would have a lot
fewer angry thoughts and a bit more peace in this world.
So where do we land with all this? Have we come up with a conclusion
about asking permission?
I think the consensus is that it's a good idea. However, how it should
be done--and when--and under what circumstances is up to debate or personal
decision.
I wish you Peace
(which, by the way, is intentional and without your permission).
Smiles, Gary
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Here is one of the most impressive Surrogate Tapping stories I have
ever heard. This post was from Gary Craig's 11/21/08 newsletter. CLICK
HERE to subscribe to Gary's EFT Newlsetter.
**EFT brings benefits for leaky gut syndrome and ASD (a form
of autism) By Gene Monterastelli
Anyone who has the opportunity to get to know a family
with a child diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) knows how
baffling and mysterious ASD can be.
One of my regular clients has a son, "Nathan",
who was diagnosed with ASD. About two years ago I approached Nathan's
father, "Jason", and share with him that EFT can be very effective
for clearing up substance sensitivities. There have been a number of
cases of ASD children having a radical improvement of symptoms when
substance sensitivities had been cleared up.
"Defeat Autism Now! (DAN)" (a collection
of medical doctors, research scientist, and parents) is leading the
charge in showing how substance sensitivities can be related to the
symptoms of ASD. Their protocol is very thorough dealing with, but not
limited to, allergies, diet, digestive enzymes, vitamin and mineral,
and the GI track. Each area is taken one at a time. Each child responds
differently to each step, but it provides parents and doctors a methodical
approach to deal with symptoms.
With some skepticism Jason agreed to try surrogate
tapping for Nathan's sensitivities. Using surrogate muscle testing I
created a protocol for which substance to tap for and for how long to
tap for each substance (eg times a day and number of days). To help
reduce Jason's skepticism I told him, "Even if nothing comes of
the tapping, you are going to be thinking loving thoughts about your
son a few times a day."
Just as a coincidence the day Jason started tapping
for Nathan, Nathan was taken to a language lab and tested at having
the verbal skills of a 20 month old. He was six at the time. Two weeks
later, when the language lab started for the school year, Nathan was
asked to leave because his verbal skills now that of a 5 1/2 year old.
Seemingly over night Nathan started speaking in complete
sentences and using three syllable words. The only change in those two
weeks was the surrogate tapping of the parents.
Within three months Nathan's general practitioner had
taken him off all of his behavior medications. Jason reported the GP
saying, "I have no idea what you are doing, but don't stop."
Over the last few years Nathan's parents have been
slowly working through the DAN protocol. As part of the process a number
of months ago Nathan was tested for and diagnosed with "leaky gut"
which is very common for children with ASD. In very simple terms, leaky
gut is when there is microscopic holes in the lining of the GI track
and particles of food slip through these holes passing directly into
the blood stream without being properly processed.
Because of some other medical treatments Nathan was
going through, they were not going to start the leaky gut treatment
for three months after the diagnosis. I asked Jason if he was willing
to do another surrogate tapping experiment. Based of the success of
clearing up the substance sensitivities he was excited to try.
I drew Jason a very crude drawing of what the cells
in the lining of the GI track look like and what is happing when leaky
gut occurs. Each night for a few minutes Jason would tune into Nathan
and see the cells moving back together closing the holes while tapping.
Three months later, when it was time to start the leaky
gut treatment, Nathan was retested for a base line. In the three months
that Jason had been tapping Nathan's leaky gut improved dramatically.
The doctors where quite surprised.
We are now looking at each of the steps of the DAN
protocol to find ways that each of those steps can be surrogately tapped
for.
Many practitioners report impressive successes through
applying EFT in this manner. In my experience, the results are not as
consistent as physically tapping but the reports are well beyond mere
coincidence.
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